We have been taught since childhood that we should be "true" and honest, and we should speak out when we have suggestions.
Today's protagonist, Cerina, is a girl like this: I am a straightforward character with one word and one word. I don't like tact and sophistication.
How does an honest girl mix in the workplace? Just use the right method!
Cerina's company is a small e-commerce company in the local area. With the development of the company, the number of employees has expanded from less than 10 at the beginning to nearly 100. Cerina likes this company very much. Her work is reliable and she is the backbone of the department.
Recently, the company has more and more employees, and the leadership has decided to introduce standardized management.
The first step is to strengthen the management of attendance, which is like wearing a "tight curse" on everyone. It is not easy to arrive a little late, ask for leave in advance, or go out to do something personal.
In addition, overtime shall be applied to the immediate leader for approval before it can be counted as overtime, so as to exchange for shift leave and overtime allowance.
At the beginning, everyone was very uncomfortable and didn't like this new measure. Cerina observed that many colleagues even began to idle away their work. The work that should be completed soon was also delayed to the off duty time. It was worried that after the work at hand was completed, the leader would arrange other work.
How does an honest girl mix in the workplace? Just use the right method!
(Waiting for getting off work...)
Sister Lina from the same department complained to her:
Now Internet enterprises, who still emphasize what attendance is? It's not humanized at all!
My classmates and their companies can work at any time they want as long as they finish their own work. They really don't want to come to the company. It's OK to work at home.
A semi annual meeting will be held next week. Doesn't it mean that employees should be asked to make suggestions? I think if the company goes on like this, it will become more and more bureaucratic sooner or later. Let's put it forward at the meeting.
Cerina thinks Lina is very reasonable. What labor discipline does an entrepreneurial company emphasize?! Will this curb everyone's creativity? It may also breed bureaucracy.
The hot blooded Cerina felt that as the backbone of the department, she was responsible and necessary to talk to the boss.
How does an honest girl mix in the workplace? Just use the right method!
So, at the company's semi annual meeting, Cerina really raised this question and carefully summarized her own views:
I like our company very much, and I hope it will not become bureaucratic and formalistic, but our big family, and we will get together harmoniously.
How does an honest girl mix in the workplace? Just use the right method!
Like, at that time, The Best of Us
However, looking at the boss's increasingly dark face, Lina not only didn't help, but also stood on the opposite side of Cerina, indicating the significance of the company's implementation of the attendance system).
Later, other colleagues also echoed the words that some companies really should have attendance system. The boss had a step, his face was slightly better, he looked around seriously, and said:
The scientific management of the company may make many people feel uncomfortable, but self-discipline people will naturally cooperate. If the scientific management of the company is formalism, I think such employees are too headstrong.
After that, the boss gave Cerina a deep look. Cerina, who has just been trapped by the "allies" and is completely confused, feels cold!
How does an honest girl mix in the workplace? Just use the right method!
After the meeting, Cerina went to communicate with her boss alone. The boss said earnestly: You always perform well, and I value you very much. How can you directly contradict me and the company's system in front of so many people?
Cerina was very aggrieved and said: I didn't! I really want to be good for the company. Obviously, everyone is against this new system.
The boss shook his head helplessly: You'd better be more careful. Why didn't anyone speak for you just now?!
At this time, Cerina was immersed in her own emotions and could not extricate herself: Boss, I have a clear conscience. You just like to listen to flattery and don't like to listen to the truth, do you?!
The conversation broke up in discord.
How does an honest girl mix in the workplace? Just use the right method!
How many young people, like Cerina, begin to stigmatize the workplace when their blood is denied by the authority in this way, and stigmatize their maturity. They think that the so-called workplace is a vanity market that plays tricks on each other.
Cerina in the story, if she can't see her cognitive problems and correct them,
Continue to recognize their own justice in the bottom of their hearts,
Then she will destroy her future and have nothing to do with others.
Why do you say that? Her problem is:
First, during the whole thinking and conversation, I was very aggressive about the company system and put myself in the "God's perspective" without knowing myself.
Second, in the later private communication with the boss, he took the initiative to give up the opportunity of in-depth discussion, but made a statement.
I once said in a communication training that the main sticking point of "student-centered" is that "expressing" speech and thinking, rather than in-depth discussion.
How does an honest girl mix in the workplace? Just use the right method!
How does an honest girl mix in the workplace? Just use the right method!
(I suggest you how to become a mature dividing line)
So, is it necessary to give up your own principles? Is it to become sophisticated? To tell the truth, I'm afraid that new people in the workplace will directly slide themselves to the other side of "once very annoying" because of some setbacks. Don't worry, there's a way!
The workplace is not a big vat but a place of cultivation. It may make us change from simple to complex, from childish to mature, and become more able to recognize ourselves and understand others. Therefore, you can do this in such a situation.
First, don't be impulsive and solve problems emotionally.
This is a particularly easy situation for newcomers to the workplace. In the spirit of fearing nothing when they are new, they tend to be confrontational with content they do not like or accept.
Under the "stimulation" of other external forces, inexplicably produce a honey confidence similar to the "sense of justice", and then take action regardless.
Second, learn how to make suggestions.
In the face of the company's new system, we certainly do not have to accept it without thinking. If we feel uncomfortable, we do not have to simply "accept". Then it is necessary to discuss - to discuss in depth rather than make a statement.
In this case, we only saw negative complaints, but did not see serious analysis, such as:
How does an honest girl mix in the workplace? Just use the right method!
If you don't think from multiple perspectives in advance, it's not surprising that you are shot. In the story, even without Lina's betrayal, you can't stand several rounds of questions from the boss when you raise an objection with great justice.
Special tips:
Unless you plan to break the net, it is not recommended to fight against the company in public meetings. Even if you are the backbone of the company, even if you are the trusted boss, public "voice" opposition is also a "self denial" approach.
So, directness and sense of justice are very high quality qualities! There is no problem in sticking to this original idea! The problem is whether our perspective is comprehensive and the way/method of communication takes into account the feelings of others. This is not smooth and sophisticated, but real maturity and growth.