Recently read a news, there is a 16-year-old boy with a neat and good-looking "print" fire all over the Internet, 7 million users have given him praise.
The boy, Lin Wenbin, is autistic. When he was three or four years old, his parents noticed that his behavior was different from ordinary people.
For example, when he is having a class at school, he may suddenly run out of the classroom or interrupt the teacher...
His parents had no choice but to send him to a special school. Gradually, it was discovered that he had a great love and talent for drawing and writing.
Without any instruction from anyone, he was able to write exactly the same type of print as a book.
Children with autism, most not only do not like to talk, in front of people will also behave particularly shy, but also let people misunderstand the child in the future "no promise."
But Lin Wenbin's story seems to have upended many people's impressions of autistic children.
Are autistic kids really useless?
There are more and more children suffering from autism these years.
The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reported a prevalence of 1 in 150 in 2002, rising to 1 in 54 in 2020.
In China, as early as 2016, the number of autistic people has exceeded 10 million. This means that one in every 100 children is affected by autism, and the number of cases is increasing by hundreds of thousands every year.
But these autistic children are often not understood in life, and even are labeled with various labels: "That child is so special", "how he behaves like a 'freak'!" ...
Temple Grandin, the heroine of the American film "Autistic Course", is a child with autism.
From a young age, Temple was different in many ways, and she did not interact with others at all.
Even when her mother was close to her, she always kept a blank face and consciously avoided it.
Temple did not learn to speak until the age of four.
Temple was later diagnosed with autism. She fell even more into her own psychological shadow, feeling that she could not be accepted by the outside world, and withdrew more and more into her own small world.
Psychologist Zeng Qifeng said that only full interpersonal relationships can nourish a soul, and loneliness can only bring pain.
Because of his long isolation from the outside world, even as an adult, Temple had difficulty expressing his thoughts and feeling the emotions of others.
And when others laugh at her, she doesn't fight back, she doesn't know how to deal with it, she just wants to run away in fear.
Her heart is like a desolate "island", no one near her, understand her.
Not surprisingly, Temple was labeled a "freak" by the outside world, living more and more without self.
Autism is a developmental disorder.
If people always look at autistic children with colored glasses, it will undoubtedly cause secondary harm to children.
Go deep into the hearts of children, they are the most unique stars
Autistic children are "children of stars", flashing in the distant horizon, looking depressed. But as long as we put aside our prejudices and are willing to go deep into their inner world, we will find that they contain unique treasures.
Just like Lin Wenbin in the article, usually at school, the teachers and classmates around him think he is very strange, inadvertently found by his parents that he has the gift of writing and painting.
There is a volunteer, to do volunteer work in a special school, see everyone playing games together, only Lin Wenbin is writing in the side, the volunteer stopped to see him write.
The volunteers were very surprised to see that Lin Wenbin wrote the font, comparable to the printer, can quickly handwritten "printed" like words, so the process of Lin Wenbin's writing was recorded and uploaded to the Internet.
The video received 7 million likes in a short time, with netizens praising Lin's writing skills and calling him a genius.
Psychologist Scott Kaw once said that the so-called talent is not an "innate ability", not that we are born with all the knowledge and skills. We can define it more precisely as a tendency and passion to master the rules of a certain field.
Cambridge psychologists conducted four experiments comparing 26 high-functioning autistic children with 26 fully developed children and found no difference between the implicit learning ability of autistic children and those of normally developing children.
So, regardless of a child's aptitude, certain knowledge and skills can be acquired through years of implicit learning.
Parents are the closest people to autistic children, as long as they are full of love and patience, and a good dig, they can help autistic children live a better self.
Give the light of love, illuminate the child's "island"
According to the book Fragile Walls, autistic children often hold the idea that the world is not doing anything to help them, and they hold a sense of "despair."
only by giving children with autism plenty of love, their inner "island" can feel enough warmth to find a more valuable self.
(1) Identify autism and intervene early
Autism is also called autism, and the clues and warning characteristics of the disease in the Guidelines for Diagnosis and Rehabilitation of Children with Autism and the Technical Specifications for Child Mental Health Care issued by the National Health Commission are helpful for the early identification of autism spectrum disorders. Early diagnosis and intervention are very important to improve the prognosis of patients.
The ICD-11 and DSM-5 classify the core symptoms of autism spectrum disorders into two broad areas: persistent deficits in social interaction and communication, and restricted, repetitive patterns of behavior, interests, or activities.
Persistent deficits in social interaction and communication. People with ASD have a qualitative deficit in social interaction. Children with onset in infancy lack eye contact, call response, social smiling, and emotional interaction. In early childhood, children's social communication disorders are more prominent. Children lack interest in communication and do not initiate or avoid interaction.
A restricted, repetitive pattern of behavior, interest, or activity. Children with autism spectrum disorders have a narrow range of interests and are very interested in or even obsessed with certain things or activities; Behaviors are rigid and repetitive, many aspects of life are rigid and rigid, and may be fixed on some special and useless routines or rituals; The appearance of rigid repetitive movements and strange and strange behaviors, such as holding hands in front of the eyes and staring and flapping; May overreact or underreact to various sensory stimuli, such as excessive attention to the smell of objects, textures, vibrations generated, etc.
Generally speaking, children can be under the guidance of professional family intervention before the age of 2; After 2 years of age, comprehensive systematic intervention involving hospitals, professional institutions and families can be carried out.
(2) Accept the child as he is and lower expectations for the child
once a child is diagnosed with autism, some parents may feel panic and anxiety, feeling that a great disaster has struck, and eager to help the child change the condition.
But the more anxious parents are to change their children, the more often the children will feel ununderstood, which goes against the original intention of loving their children.
Accepting the child's autism first is the most powerful protection and comfort for the child.
When the child feels that although he is different from other partners, but the parents and people around him accept him, understand him, love him, this kind of safe relationship and atmosphere, it is easier to help the child build a strong inner and stable self.
(3) Learn to communicate with children's thinking patterns
Children with autism are often not understood by their parents because of communication barriers, and their parents do not know what their real needs and thoughts are.
In the face of difficulties in communicating with their children, parents are often helpless.
At this time, parents need to be patient, carefully observe the way they are good at communication, and learn to adapt to their thinking mode.
When the communication bridge between parents and children is built, the children's emotions will flow and connect with their parents.
In this way, parents can better understand the inner world of their children and give them the help they need most.
Every autistic child is an angel with broken wings.
I believe that with the acceptance and love of parents, the black hole of the child's heart will be illuminated!
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Mastermind: Suki
By: Odeka
Edit: Sydney