Who doesn't want to have a smooth career? Unfortunately, some people have been working hard, but they are still blocked everywhere; Some people seem to be calm, but they can go with the wind and the water.
With ability, performance, relationship... many objective things affect, but the things that really play a role are those that cannot be visualized. Just like a truth that price can be specific, but value cannot be specific.
To give a simple example, this is like walking and running. Would you consider walking with your left foot or your right foot first? When your phone suddenly rings, will you consider answering with your left hand or your right hand, and then put it to your ear, the left ear or the right ear?
Presumably, these are not considered at all, because these are subconscious behaviors. I often hear people say: "I know a lot of truth, but I still can't live a good life." In fact, what we know is not turned into a subconscious behavior, and what we deliberately do will always leave traces.
If we can say that it is not only natural to turn the 24 word maxim of mixing with the workplace into a subconscious behavior through deliberate practice, but also it seems not difficult to make the workplace smooth.
Speak less and do more
When walking in the workplace, most people hope to attract everyone's attention, especially leaders' attention.
There is no doubt that speaking is the best way to attract attention, but too much is too much. "Speak less" is not to say nothing, but to say less useless words. For example, parents complain and complain about something they should not say in order to be alert
No one likes a person who only talks but doesn't do anything. A person who only talks may soon attract attention, but will lose trust more quickly.
The correct way to attract attention is to do more and say less. Talk less and do more is a whole. You must not be separated. If you talk more than others, you must do more. The expected value management can play a better role and make people feel modest, cautious and trust will gradually increase.
Say one to do two, say two to do three... Such people are more likely to win trust. Whether leaders or colleagues, they will naturally feel that those who do more and say less are reliable. The greatest wealth in life is not power and wealth, but relying on spectra. As mentioned at the beginning, those things that cannot be visualized will play a key role.
Smile more, something will happen
"Don't hit a smiling person". When you face a smile, it is a positive energy and friendly message. Mixed workplace, everyone comes to work, who would like to see a sad face? It's like seeing beautiful women and handsome men on the road and hiding when seeing local ruffians and hooligans.
People often say that "people who love to laugh are lucky", because energy attracts each other. You pass positive energy, and what you give back is also positive energy, so luck will naturally come to you. Even if your heart is bitter, keep smiling on your face, and good luck will gradually attract you.
Smiling is your own behavior, and "coming" is the link of interaction. People and people, people and the world are interactive processes. If you pay, there will be feedback. If you pay a positive "cause", you will get a positive "result".
Some people will misunderstand the meaning of "will come" and regard it as "flattering", "catering", "pleasing"... In fact, the so-called "will come" is to do things properly. This is just like cooking. More salt will be salty, less salt will be light. If you want to taste delicious, you must be just right. Simply "catering" and "pleasing" is not "coming" at all.
The real "coming" is based on the different situation of each person. It is just a matter of doing things in others' minds, but not offside or misplaced. This is like a work of art that has lasting appeal only when it is left blank.
Current account
Although the essence of people is value exchange, there are so many people that can be exchanged, why do you have to? The distance has become a key factor. If you don't communicate with each other at ordinary times and ask for help at critical moments, who will buy your account? At the critical moment of "cramming for Buddha's feet temporarily", "burning incense can't find the temple gate."
Between people, there is not only value exchange, but also emotion. Value exchange is the basis, and emotion is the bond. This is just like the saying once heard, "If you want to be rich, build a road first", and "road" is the link of value exchange. Different roads make it difficult to export even if it is valuable. Don't say that "the aroma of wine is not afraid of the depth of the alley". In this era, there is not no choice, but too many choices.
It is difficult to achieve an absolute balance in frequent dealings, but at least you should not be the party in debt. Here, it is not only the exchange of money, but also the "debt" of human relations.
The workplace is a world of adults, and everyone is not stupid. Some things are not worth mentioning, but "brothers pay their bills". Don't owe money, let alone love. only when you come and I go can the relationship gradually deepen. Everyone knows how to do big things, but it is often the "debt" on small things that will pull the relationship between people apart.
It is not easy to balance frequent transactions, but only when you become a "creditor" rather than a "debtor" can you play an unexpected role at a critical moment.
Have the ability to refuse
It is the ability to walk in the workplace that is the basis of settling down. "Ability" should be distinguished from "ability", which is embodied in a specific matter; Ability is the outward extension of ability. It is like your ability to paint well, and your ability to turn your painting into reality.
A person with ability is a process of realizing his ability and making his ability needed by others. You draw very well, but no one appreciates it, just stay in the ability stage; Not only can you draw well, but also others need your help. Being needed and recognized is the pursuit of a higher level, and having the ability to meet the needs of workers.
You will be needed if you have the ability, but you should know the art of rejection. The reason is that it is art, not method, because if you refuse well, others will thank you. If you refuse badly, it is "a good horse is worth a donkey".
The key point of the art of rejection is to make the other party pay the corresponding cost, which can not only avoid being occupied with valuable time and energy by various trivial matters, but also let the other party know that things are not deserved.
For example, a sentence like "Wait a moment, I will handle the matter at hand." If the other party is not willing to pay the time cost of waiting for the help they need, it means that they are either not so important or they can be replaced at any time.
If the other party is willing to pay the corresponding cost, for example, time and energy show that things are important, and they can play a role, then providing help can bring the relationship closer. Rejection is a means, but not an end. It is not only a screening process, but also a judgment of the importance of things. The more you are willing to pay, the more important the thing is. It is more important to evaluate whether your ability is worth the cost of others.
We all know many reasons for walking in the workplace, but knowing and doing are two concepts, and doing and forming habits are two levels. Turning truth into habits, and doing things well without leaving any trace, will certainly go smoothly. Just like talking with some famous people, they always cite scriptures and speak frankly, thinking they are so awesome. In fact, it is just their thinking habits, which turn the known truth into a habit through deliberate practice.
